She’s always stressed … Aren’t we all stressed… She’s burnt out… She hasn’t been coping for a while… You know you really should think about working somewhere else… She won’t last you know… Come on look around you, we are all burning out… 

I’m sure she wouldn’t want to talk to anyone… I’m sure I wouldn’t want to… I’m sure I would want people to pretend they didn’t know… She’s obviously not very resilient… 

She would ask for help if she needed it… 

Sound familiar? Maybe you have said those things to a colleague? Or thought them? Or been on the receiving end of them?